When Marriage Disrupts Family Peace, It Misses Its Purpose

When Marriage Disrupts Family Peace, It Misses Its Purpose

In Surah Ar-Rum (30:21), Allah says, “And among His signs is that He created for you from yourselves spouses that you may find tranquility in them…” While this ayah is often interpreted to refer to emotional or physical intimacy between spouses, that understanding is too narrow. Tranquility (sakan) in marriage is meant to extend beyond personal comfort—it should foster peace within the entire family. Marriage is not a private island; it is a relational covenant that must include honoring and preserving peace with one’s parents and family. It’s unrealistic—and even harmful—to assume that once someone gets married, their parents and family suddenly become irrelevant or invisible. A truly blessed marriage is one that brings not only love and companionship but also honor and harmony to one’s parents and family. If a marriage causes division, disrespect, or turmoil within the family—especially toward parents—it contradicts the very essence of the tranquility that Allah describes.

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