Marriage is one of the most important decisions of your life—a sacred covenant, not just between two people, but between two families, made in the sight of Allah. While it may be legally possible in some cases to marry without your parents’ knowledge, Islam teaches us that seeking the blessings (barakah) of our parents is essential for long-term peace, harmony, and divine support.

Before you take such a serious step, ask yourself: 

— Have I involved my parents and honored their right to be consulted? 

–Am I seeking a marriage built on trust and transparency, or on secrecy and hurt? 

–Have I made istikhārah, sought wise counsel, and explored halal avenues of resolution?

Remember, even if your parents disagree at first, approach them with respect, patience, and sincerity. Get help from elders or scholars if needed. But don’t begin your life with your spouse by breaking your family’s heart—there’s no barakah in pain or betrayal. A marriage that starts with adab and honesty invites the mercy of Allah; one that starts in defiance may carry regret.

May Allah guide your hearts, protect your steps, and bless your future with love, faith, and unity. Aameen.