Learn to Let Go of Our Adult Children

Learn to Let Go of Our Adult Children

A day will inevitably come when our children leave our homes to begin lives of their own. This transition creates a deep void in the hearts of many parents—a mix of longing, concern, and reflection. Yet, from an Islamic perspective, it is essential for parents to learn the art of letting go. 

Each soul is ultimately responsible for its own journey to Allah ﷻ, and while parents are divinely entrusted with nurturing, teaching, and guiding their children, that responsibility shifts as the child reaches maturity (bulugh). At that point, they are accountable for their own choices, deeds, and direction. 

The Prophet ﷺ emphasized the importance of balancing rights and responsibilities, which includes knowing when to step back with wisdom and grace. Parents must allow their adult children the space to grow, make mistakes, and develop their own relationship with Allah ﷻ. Holding on too tightly may hinder that process. 

True tawakkul—reliance upon Allah—means entrusting our children to His care while continuing to support them through sincere du‘ā, love, and counsel. Letting go is not a sign of detachment or abandonment, but rather a reflection of spiritual maturity and confidence in the upbringing one has provided.

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